I’m beyond fed up that the gender of the murderers are still largely absent from conversations about America’s mass shootings crisis.
While we cannot, of course, overstate the role racism and white supremacy played in the May 14 mass shooting in Buffalo, New York, we ignore gender at our peril.
Let’s tighten restrictions on poisonous hate speech on social media. It’s imperative we conduct threat assessments. Absolutely, more gun control regulations. We must deconstruct racist, anti-Semitic, homophobic, misogynist, white supremacist manifestos.
But if we do all that and continue to minimize or ignore how these murderous men were socialized as boys and men, mass shootings will continue to plague us.
We have to start in preschool, carefully attending to how boys are socialized. We must cultivate their emotional intelligence. Who would deny the value of educating boys to examine their inner lives; to talk about their feelings?